Saturday, October 07, 2006

In Memory of Alan

4 July 1936 - 7 October 2004

My darling Alan

My life changed forever
When you were taken from me two years ago today
And I still ask why you were taken away so soon.

Alan you were the love of my life
The hardest part is living life without you
I sense your presence at times,
Which gives me the strength to go on

Thinking of you every minute of every day
You are always in my heart.
Thank you for the precious memories
That are mine to hold onto forever and a day

Carol, Gary, Donna & Joanne would like to share with you all the following reading that they wrote & Carol read at Alans funeral service.

Dad, you were our teacher
From you we learned the rules of right and wrong
You gave us strength, hope and courage
You taught us to stand up, be ourselves,
You encouraged us to strive and achieve.
But most of all you showed us how to love each other,
Be there for each other, to stick together, be a united front.

There were times when we rebelled,
You would just look at us with “the look”
Arguments would follow, but stubborn we would remain.
You would just shake your head,
and eventually accepted that we just had to do, and learn for ourselves.
How lucky we were to have been loved so well.

You were proud of us all,
In so many different ways.
You were our rock,
The person we turned to, looked up to and respected
You saw us through the good times
and guided us through the hard times.
Your were not one to express “mush” and sentiment
You didn’t need to, we knew, we were your life, and you knew, you were ours.

We will miss you though we know you are here beside us
We will miss your arguments, laughter, and fun,
We will miss so much, we cant even express
But most of all, we will miss your love, though ours for you remains

You were, are and will be, just as ever, In many minds and hearts, not only ours.
Dad lives in those he left behind, His loved ones and his mates
And so Dad, goodbye does not mean you are gone, so long as we still love you, you live on.



Blogger Gwen said...

Hi Jan and family.
I too remember little things I shared with "BIG AL"jokes,a beer,a laugh& not forgetting our weight digs at one another.
"Especially" today I remember.
your mate Gwen xx

October 06, 2006 10:26 pm  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi Jan, beautiful tribute, my thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.God Bless Margaret

October 06, 2006 11:12 pm  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Hi Jan and all the family, god it's hard to type when your eyes are full of tears.
It doesn't seem possible that Al has been gone for two years, I can still hear the cheery "have a beer mate" and feel the warmth of true friendship.
We all have such great memories of Al that he will never die, he is with us always.
My thoughts are with you Jan, Carol, Gary, Donna, Joanne and all your families.
Still in our hearts.

October 06, 2006 11:53 pm  
Blogger Sue said...

Although I've lost loved ones, I can't imagine what my life would be without my husband.
Al looks so full of fun. Hope your years of memories give you comfort today!
Sending big (((hugs))) to you!!

October 07, 2006 1:10 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Jan, A beautiful tribute to your
loved husband Alan. I am so sorry about
how sad you are feeling and the only bit
of comfort I can offer is "Don't be sad that he is gone; Be glad that he was here". So many wonderful memories to keep in your heart forever. Great photo
show. Thinking of you and the family
wit Love, Merle. X X X

October 07, 2006 1:16 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

what a beautiful memory presentation!! And thank you for your comment. I'm glad you are meeting your challenge and sorry to hear you have had to suffer. I've had friends and family also affected, so I do my part to contribute and keep awareness out there, best I can.

October 07, 2006 3:44 am  
Blogger Jim said...

Hi Jeanette -- You have a nice blog on this special day. I'm sure it was hard for you to write, thank you so much for sharing with us.
Thank you to for those nice memory pictures.

October 07, 2006 3:49 pm  
Blogger Janice said...


My dad died over 20 years ago, and it does get a little easier as time passes, but you never get over some one you loved so well.

Your still in morning, and that's okay, it takes along as it takes.

My sympathy for your loss.


October 07, 2006 6:58 pm  
Blogger Peggy said...

What a beautiful post honoring your husband. My first husband died in 1986 when we were raising 3 small girls. I thought my world had ended as I had lost my soulmate. Though many years later I have remarried I still enjoy the memories and love of my first love. Enjoy those memories!

October 07, 2006 10:42 pm  
Blogger Dick said...


Thanks for your comment on my blog and I sure do know what you are going through today (it is now the 7th here.) My Annie dies 23 July 2005. I never realized how devestating that is to a person. Time does help some but I know she will always be with me wherever I go and whatever I do.

God bless you.

October 08, 2006 12:30 am  
Blogger Marcus said...

That's a great tribute to Alan, lovely words from the kids, and the photo show is fantastic, how did you do that?

Pictures of Keith Alan and my Dad together always touch me, they were/are such good friends, over so many years, friendships like that don't happen every day.

I'm glad that Gary and I have remained mates to continue the Holt/Davies connection into a second generation. We don't see one another or talk as much as the originals did but there is a bond there that I really value.

Isn't blogging fantastic? Such a brilliant way for people/families to keep in touch.

My thoughts and prayers are with you today Jan.


October 08, 2006 4:20 am  
Blogger PEA said...

I hadn't realized you had lost your husband only two years ago...I am so sorry he was taken away from you:-( I loved the slideshow and he certainly looked like a wonderful caring man, it's no wonder you miss him so much! Loved the tribute poems also! Hugs xox

October 08, 2006 4:21 am  
Blogger JunieRose2005 said...

Thank you for sharing this.


October 08, 2006 1:12 pm  
Blogger DellaB said...

Jeanette, the tribute and the photos are neautiful, what a lovely way to honour your husband's memories on this special day. And it's easy to tell from the comments of others who knew him that he was a special person. He will live on while he lives in the hearts and minds of the family who loved him.

My condolences for your loss.

October 08, 2006 10:49 pm  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Dear Jan ~ I am so sorry you were unwell while going through this sad anniversary. I do hope the sinus has improved and the shoulder pain. Are you able to bowl? I would think not. You did a wonderful job with the tribute, and can be very proud of yourself and the kids too. Do feel better soon. Glad the blood tests were OK, they are always a worry. Take care, Love, Merle.

October 09, 2006 12:28 am  
Blogger Lee-ann said...

this blog post is beautiful and I am sure your Alan is very proud of you for doing a great memorial like this.

He looked a wonderful man loved by many I am sure. You were blessed to have him in your life and the memories you have such treasures.

Now I am sure your Alan would say now girl lets sit outback and have a coldie! together. your solemate forever.

thank you for sharing this lovely post with us out here.

October 10, 2006 8:45 pm  
Blogger Meow said...

Hi Jen, what a beautiful post.
Hope you are doing OK.
Take care, hugs, Meow

October 10, 2006 9:52 pm  
Blogger Clay Bethelbridge said...

Hi Jeanette. That was a beautiful tribute. I am sure that Alan is up in heaven playing golf. You can tell he was loved.

October 11, 2006 12:34 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

It has taken me quite a few visits to your blog before I had the courage to look at this; I knew it would probably cause me to reflect even more on my own situation. I was right and have shed a tear or two for you and your family.I'm glad I did "come in" though. He looks a lovely man and I am sure he is watching over you all and having a good laugh at all the wonderful jokes you post,
With love and respect

December 16, 2006 1:43 am  
Anonymous Hootin' Anni said...

So touching, so beautiful! Yes, I can understand your questioning why? Why so young, and when they're in the prime of their lives!

But good memories always follow the sorrow.

We both know just how it feels to lose someone we love.

Thanks for directing me here. And sending you a gentle hug when those times of wonderment and memories seem so heavy on your shoulders.

February 06, 2007 3:34 am  
Blogger Pat said...

Ohhhh, can hardly type with tears running down my face. Love this memorial to your beloved husband.

I lost mine 6 years ago and it feels as if it's only 6 weeks. He's still so dear to me.

I'd like to know how you did the picture show.

Could you email me please at:

patzscott AT gmail DOT com

I'd appreciate it.


February 20, 2007 5:35 am  
Blogger talj said...

Dear Jeanette,

Thank you for popping by my garden blog. I just wanted to say hello to you and to let you know I am thinking of you. Having lost my partner in 2005 I can understand some of how you feel. This is a lovely tribute to your darling Alan, he sure sounds like a very special man.

Love to you and yours,

Natalya x

March 29, 2007 7:34 am  
Blogger Penless Thoughts said...

What a wonderful tribute to your darling man. I know you have to miss him terribly. I have tears in my eyes just seeing this and reading the comments of you and your children.

May 05, 2007 1:42 am  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

when I started my day today I had this feeling that I'm missing someone special. As the day went on I became aware of this special person it was my Uncle Al, with that thought with me I couldn't wait to arrive home and confirm that this was the day Uncle Al was taken from us. Aunty Jeanette I think of you everyday even more on this day. Thanks for having the photos on your blog for this means we all can share the memories and never forgot the wonderful husband, father, grandfather brother, uncle and friend to many
love always
xoxoxox (favorite niece)

October 07, 2008 8:16 pm  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

hi beautiful lady,
I'm amazed the power this wonderful man still has over me. The power has drawn me to check out your blog tonight and then to realise that it's the old buggers birthday, well you know I will love you forever and he is always in my heart. xoxoxo Lea

July 04, 2009 11:43 pm  

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